Josh Terry

Normalize being delighted and amazed. We often feel miserable because we have gotten so used to everything good in our lives that we can’t even notice the good things. This happens because the human mind is designed to expend energy on problems and be as efficient as possible everywhere else. So you’re wired to look…

If you’re struggling to succeed at something, the most useful thing you can do is engineer a success in an area of your life that you have more control over. When you succeed at something your body chemistry changes. Your serotonin levels shift, your posture changes, and you become more relaxed, energetic, and capable. In…

Refusing to accept your darker desires makes you vulnerable to them. Hanging on to the idea that you want to be nice all the time and you just want to make everything better for everyone is not a very honest way to see yourself. Because the human animal comes with an infinite set of feelings.…

If you’re struggling to trust someone and you want to develop your trust in them, understand that you will never feel like you trust someone until after you’ve engaged in the act of trusting them. Trust is not earned. It’s developed. Because there is nothing one person can do to completely remove another person’s fear.…

If you want to be successful in life you have to optimize for luck. Don’t eat a healthy diet, workout regularly, learn something new everyday, spend less than you make and invest the difference every month just because it gives you consistently good results. Do it because it makes you healthy, and capable of taking…

The difference between a craving and a desire is simple. A craving is something that you want and when you get it you are less. A desire is something you want and when you get it you are more. Desire is the most powerful force in the universe and most of us avoid it because…

If you want to be likable then you have to be willing to offend the people around you. This is because we like people that are willing to take risks and aren’t too concerned with what others think. This doesn’t mean you should actively be offensive. This means you need to stop putting all your…

There’s a difference between knowing what’s wrong and knowing how to fix it. And if someone is looking for your advice on how to fix something, one of the worst things you can do is tell them everything they’re doing wrong. Because they probably already know, and it will just make them sad or angry.…

It’s easy to think you’re not making progress. This is because we learn by copying others. We compare ourselves to others because we have to. But this creates a situation where you’re wrong until you’re exactly like the person you’re comparing yourself to. And then you’re right. But this destroys your identity and sense of…

Making a mistake doesn’t mean you’re wrong. If you believe you should make more friends, and have a terrible experience at a party, it’s easy to believe that you shouldn’t talk to any more people. If you injure yourself in the gym it’s easy to convince yourself that you shouldn’t be exercising. But having a…