If you want to feel like you matter then remember this. You want people to use you. You just don’t want to feel used. You want to be useful and then be rewarded for that usefulness. You have to set boundaries to stop others from taking too much. But don’t get so lost in protecting…

If you want to become truly powerful, remember this. There are ways we want to be and things we want to do. We want to be relaxed, happy, or excited, and then on the do side we want to succeed or build something that matters to us. Usually we sacrifice the way we want to…

Doing what you want can be one of the scariest things you can do. Because you spend most of your life unwilling to face up to the fact that you might not get your way. So you hide behind how difficult something is. We procrastinate and say we aren’t ready yet. Or we never try…

If you want to live a life with any sort of joy or hope in it then you have to understand the difference between pain and harm. Pain is a sensation of discomfort. It can be horrible. But it is only a sensation. Harm is a shift in your existence that makes you worse or…

To improve yourself, you need to do the thing that makes you feel like a bad person. If you have low boundaries, you need to stand up for yourself, and that’ll feel like you’re offending people because you’re not used to saying no or telling others what you want. If you have hard boundaries and…

Finding your people is difficult. And we’re constantly sent signals by the people around us to be more normal. To not be so loud, and to not act so weird. But the most lonely place is in the middle of the bell curve. Because we don’t want to be around lots of people. We want…

Do something difficult in a measured way. Lots of self-development talks about how you need to experience difficult things to become a better person. But to say that without a measuring stick is stupid. You can’t just experience unlimited hard things. There are infinite problems you can choose to experience in life and if you…

Pushing yourself can be stupid. Because many people always try to be better. And most of them can’t see their actual skill level. And if you’re already trying hard and decide that you should push yourself, you won’t realize that you’ve gone beyond your limits because you’re too focused on your goal to see your…

If you want to help someone, don’t tell them five things. Tell them one. Your ego wants to tell them five because it makes you feel smart. But they need one because that’s how many things you can try at the same time to make an improvement. So if someone asks you for help, you…

When you’re a productive person with ambition there’s no end to the things you should do So eventually you have to decide you’ll stop otherwise you will only stop from exhaustion, when there is no other option and you will be consumed with guilt. Don’t make the mistake of only putting limits on your pleasure.…