It’s very important to understand. What you think you want isn’t the same thing as what will make you happy. Sometimes they align, sometimes they don’t. Go after what you want because it teaches you. But if you’re not happy then you need to examine what makes you happy separately from what you want. Happiness…

Never forget, that when a politician preaches about the evils of powerful people, he’s written the speech in search of power. When a father encourages everyone to work together for the good of the family but doesn’t accept responsibility himself he’s looking for power. When a mother tells a boy how controlling their father was…

Big life changing moments do happen. But it’s a waste of time to depend on them. Looking for a revelation to change your life has a lot in common with perfectionism. It’s like looking for a silver bullet or a cure-all medicine. The reality is that your mind and body can shift in the blink…

If you wanna be productive, you need to understand pain and pleasure and how to use both. They motivate humans to get stuff done. And most people only use one or the other. Free love culture tends to seek pleasure and fulfillment. This is where you hear the advice to find your passion so that…

When you get your life together and achieve the things you want to, you have to guard against your desire to take every opportunity. If you’ve been having trouble, and things start working, it will be tempting to do everything. But you’re still a person. You still get tired. Telling yourself, “I didn’t do quite…

If you’re stuck and unproductive, you can make a tiny change and get a big result. All you have to do is take whatever you think you need to do and decide to do half of it. Take whatever length of time you think you’ll need to get it done and double it. And start…

If you’re having trouble moving from the planning phase to the action phase, consider that you might be assuming that you need to have everything figured out ahead of time. Not even rocket launches are done with everything figured out ahead of time. This is a really bad assumption. If you’re starting a business and…

If you can organize your life so that you do one useful thing a day you can do incredible things. Obviously, you’re going to do more than one thing in a day. The chores have to get done and you have to eat food and take a shower and do all the things you do.…

See the good in yourself because it’s useful. If you make nine good decisions and one bad decision you’ll probably call yourself a bad decision maker. Because we like to dislike ourselves. If you do this, you’ll make your belief come true, and make bad decisions because your picture of reality is wrong. The more…