When having a conversation try to establish positive intent and when the other person is struggling to come up with the right words encourage them to say it badly. Words are tremendously difficult. And talking with someone with the assumption that you have to phrase everything correctly tends to make people struggle with what to…

If you’re unable to say no to someone in your life it might be happening for several reasons. One is that it might just be making you nervous. And if it’s too scary then the solution is to say no more often to smaller things that don’t feel like a big deal. You need practice.…

Stop looking for the answer that solves everything. Because the best information gives you more questions than answers. And if you’re looking for the answer that fixes your life, you’ll never find it. Because the answer is to learn to live with the questions. Learn how to move forward even when you’re feeling unsure. And…

Some people fail because they plan too much. Others fail because they plan too little. And it’s very important to understand your own personal tendency. People who plan too much get distracted from their goals. They spend their life learning the fundamentals and forget why they’re learning them. They have trouble attempting to create the…

The human mind is naturally wired for anxiety. Part of the natural human experience is to problem solve. One of the most useful tools in problem solving is understanding what could happen next. And anxiety is an obsession with solving future problems. There’s an element of anxiety that’s built into the human experience and in…

If you changed your life to make it better then you need to remember that what gets you healthy is what keeps you healthy. The steps you take to make yourself a functional person aren’t solutions. They’re lifestyle choices. And if you let go of the lifestyle that keeps you in a good place then…

If you feel like you’re not living because you’re spending all your time disciplining yourself into a functional schedule of work and rest then I can guarantee you’re not as functional as you could be. Because the best ideas, the best rest, and the best work happens when you feel alive. Life is certainly made…

The reason we struggle with indecision is we’re confused between what we want to do and what we should do. We create a web of possible options between what we think we want that might make life worse, and what we think we should that might make things better. But to become powerful, we have…

This is called the paradox of self-development… you must accept yourself as you are and keep improving. And to a lot of people this doesn’t make sense. Because why would you keep improving when you’re fine just the way you are? It feels like an impossible problem. How do you love a 12-year-old when they…

Did you know that some people get depressed because of a lack of connection and others get depressed because of a lack of capability? And if you try to get someone to connect when they need to solve problems they will get more depressed. And if you try to solve the problems of someone who…